You should be fine by now.
So why does this still keep showing up?
Trauma-informed, body-based therapy for adults working through childhood abuse, neglect, and relational trauma — including domestic violence, assault, and emotionally abusive relationships.
A lot of people tell me they should be fine by now. Whatever happened was a long time ago, so why is it still affecting them? Why does it keep showing up — in the same argument, the same shutdown, the same relationship pattern, over and over?
Maybe it looks like a racing heart over something small. Canceling plans because today, leaving the house feels like too much. Looking "fine" at work, at home, in the group chat — while some part of you is running at a level ten that no one else can see.
Trauma isn't only about what happened. Sometimes it's about what should have happened and never did. And if you were the "good kid" growing up — the easy one, the one who never needed anything — that wasn't a personality. It was a job.
If your body still reacts like it's back in that house, or you keep landing in relationship patterns that hurt you the same way something once did, that's not you overreacting. It's old information your nervous system hasn't updated yet.
You're not imagining it.
A lot of people minimize what they went through, because it "wasn't that bad," or someone else had it worse, or there was no single moment they can point to and say that's when it happened. If you've spent years being dismissed, second-guessed, or made to doubt your own read on things — gaslit, love-bombed, controlled, or worn down slowly instead of all at once — that counts. Trauma is defined by its impact, not by how it compares to someone else's story.
Who this work is for.
You look "high-functioning" from the outside, but you're stuck in patterns that leave you frustrated, anxious, defeated, mistreated, or alone
Specialized care, held with intention.
How we work together.
EMDR
We use EMDR to process specific memories and incidents that got stuck — the ones that still fire like they're happening now instead of staying in the past.
Parts Work
Drawing on Janina Fisher's framework, we make sense of the roles you built to survive — the helper, the achiever, the one who never needed anything — without pathologizing them. The goal isn't getting rid of those parts. It's letting them finally clock out.
DBT Skills
You'll leave sessions with something concrete to use between them — skills for the moments regulation matters most, not just concepts to think about.
Mindfulness & Body-Based Work
Insight alone rarely settles what trauma leaves in the body. Mindfulness and somatic tools help close that gap, so the work isn't only intellectual.
Depending on what fits, we use a mix of all of this — not a single fixed protocol — so you're not just understanding the pattern. You're actually changing it.
Beginning is the hardest part. Let's make it gentler.
Reach out
Send a short note — name, email, and a sentence on what's bringing you in. No paperwork, no PHI.
Free 15-minute consult
A short call to hear what's going on and make sure we're a good fit — yours to decide, no pressure.
Begin, gently
Start with a 90-minute assessment and go from there regarding frequency of sessions. Most clients start weekly or biweekly — we'll discuss options in your first meeting and build a clear plan forward together.
Licensed Clinical Social Worker with 13 years of clinical experience, licensed in California and New Jersey. Sessions available online and in-person in Temecula, CA.
You've carried this long enough. Let's update the information.
Reach out for a free consultation. We'll figure out together whether this is a fit.