Couples Therapy in San Diego (Telehealth)
For two-career San Diego couples whose one free hour is 8 p.m. on a weeknight — and whose relationship deserves a real seat at that hour instead of an afterthought.
A lot of San Diego couples who reach me are not in crisis; they're in erosion. Two full careers, kids or dogs or both, the calendar app that runs the household, a life that looks enviable on paper and feels lonely inside the actual house. The two of you have not fought so much as slowly stopped meeting. The same disagreement is a rerun. The tenderness is on a timer.
Evening telehealth exists exactly for this. You can be on the same couch, in your own home, after the kids are asleep, laptop between you, and do real work. No drive downtown, no babysitter for the drive, no arriving to a stranger's office already annoyed at each other for the traffic.
How I work with couples
We begin with a 90-minute assessment. I hear each of you, watch the pattern between you, and give you a plainly honest read on whether this is workable now and what a first phase would look like. From there, weekly to every-other-weekly sessions of 50–75 minutes depending on what we agree on. The work usually spans stabilizing the fight, understanding each person's protection strategies, and rebuilding the small daily contact that keeps a relationship real.
I draw on emotionally focused therapy, the Gottman framework, attachment-based work, and what I know about how each person's individual trauma shows up in the relationship without ever being named as trauma.
Couples therapy is not the right container when there is active abuse, coercion, or violence in the relationship. In those cases I pivot to individual work and safety planning. Please tell me in the consult if any of that is present — I would rather know up front.
I do not have a San Diego office. San Diego couples meet with me by secure video anywhere in California. Both partners need to be physically located in California at session time.
Common questions
- Do you offer evening sessions?
- When available, yes — I hold a limited number of evening slots specifically for two-career couples. Because we meet by video, we can start at 7 or 8 p.m. without either of you commuting home from a downtown office to somewhere else across town.
- Can we do this from two different locations?
- Yes. Ideally you're in the same room for the connection piece, but if one of you is traveling or working late, we can run a session with each of you on your own screen. Both of you need to be physically in California at session time.
- What if we're not sure we want to stay together?
- That's a valid starting place. Couples therapy is not automatically about staying together — it's about seeing the pattern clearly and making an honest decision about it. Some couples rebuild. Some part with much less damage than they would have otherwise. Both count as good outcomes.